Here are several suggestions to work with to see if you can improve the relationship without professional help.

1) Try listening fully. This means listen to everything the universe is telling you. Expand upon the concept that listening is receiving everything, not just audible sounds. It includes feelings, thoughts, emotions, gestures, compliments and criticisms.

2) Start using the "I" word. Stop saying, "you should" or "you must." That is a controlling and demanding sentence. Instead, start by asking, like, " honey, I would really like if you would................." or " I feel..........."

3) Stop manufacturing your interpretations. Start seeing the truth in everything. Like the old TV show Dragnet, "just the facts miss." There is a big different in what happened and what you feel happened.

4) Lighten up. Let little things go in life. Only worry about things that will matter one year from now.

5) Focus on what is working in your relationship instead of on what is not working.

Please let me know if this helps. If you have a problem and would like to write the coach, please e mail coach Jeff at CoachJeff@LifeCoachNews.com